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User: Josh O.

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Posted in Dress Code Discipline on 2011-05-11 01:33:35

yeah, I don't know if I really associate dressing up with punishment. I just went to my cousin's graduation last weekend and wore a suit for the ceremony. I didn't feel like I was being punished in going to that. I guess it's more of making me dress much more formally than needed. Even so I have a polo and dockers on now which I feel is still kinda dressy for a kid, it isn't as out of place as a dress shirt and tie when I'm out with my friends. Now if I was at a school dance and everyone was dressed up, then I wouldn't feel weird at all, would actually be more uncomfortable wearing what I am now than dressing up more like my friends there. For the week of spring break, like I said it was a few different things that just made my life feel real strict in a way I didn't want it to be again - being told what exactly to wear, having the tight tie around my neck all day, being grounded without TV, having an early bedtime and having to get up early during my vacation. It's really all that that has made me work harder at school and try to behave better at home I think.

Posted in Dress Code Discipline on 2011-05-07 14:22:31

yeah, so what's happened since I posted this...

My parents had threatened to make me dress nicer and generally be stricter after I wasn't doing too hot in school after the fall semester and while I was off over the holidays I kinda got in few arguments and such about silly things. When I posted the poll, my parents, mostly my dad, had been dropping hints about what they were going to do if I didn't "shape up" (their words).

So, after all this, they got my report card for the next quarter a couple weeks before spring break. I didn't do so hot on that one, either, so I guess they decided something had to be done. They didn't really say much for a couple weeks but I was totally afraid of something happening. Then on the Friday before I started spring break, they told me I was grounded all of the vacation because of my grades and attitude lately and that I should just go up to my room after dinner and think about it...I was pretty nervous at this point. So Saturday morning after breakfast, my dad went to the coat closet and grabbed one of those bags that a suit comes in and hands it to me. He told me to put that on after I took a shower and then come back down. I started to unzip it and he stopped me and told me it was a surprise. So I went up and showered and everything and took the bag in with me. When I opened it up, there was a white shirt, black pants, black belt, black socks, a pair of my boxers, and a white undershirt. I put them on and went downstairs. As soon as he saw me, my dad yelled at me to tuck in my shirt and button the cuffs of my sleeves. I did mostly because I was just pretty scared at this point of what was going to happen. He motioned for me to come over, made me turn around to make sure it all fit ok I guess and took a necktie off the table. He buttoned my collar and tied it on tightly. My mom told me that this was what I was going to wear from now because of the grades and such. They told me I was still grounded all week, that I wasn't staying up past my normal school bedtime, and that I couldn't watch TV. I was pretty upset and argued alot and stormed up into my room. My old clothes were pretty much gone, just my boxers and a couple of sets of dress clothes I had had before were still in my room. I think I pouted most of the rest of the day. I also stayed buttoned up and tucked in because I wasn't sure what my parents would do if I didn't. Each night my dad would make sure I was in bed by 9 and each morning, I was handed my clothes on a hanger, along with the tie that my mom had me practice for a while on Sunday to make sure I could tie it myself. It was always the same, a dress shirt and pants and these new dressy shoes and black socks and a tie. I read alot and played some computer games that week. On Saturday, my parents sat me down and told me that I had been acting better so they weren't going to make me dress up as much come Monday when I went back to school. I was worried about this because my friends would think I was really weird if I did. They took me clothes shopping that day, me still in a shirt and tie and dress pants, and picked out various polos and nicer shirts and dockers for me to wear. I still had to wear a tie on Sunday while my mom washed and ironed my new clothes. That Monday I was wearing a polo and dockers and some less dressy shoes I got. I still felt weird but it wasn't that bad after having to wear a tie all day during the week before.

Its been a few weeks now and I think their plan worked because I am definitely motivated to be better in school and I try to argue as much. There were a couple days when I ended up back in a tie for a day because of something I said but after that, I don't really want to go back again so I try to behave better. Right now I am in a polo shirt and tan dockers. I'm meeting up with some of my friends this weekend since this is the first one that parents are letting go out on since this all started. Anyways, yes they did do something but I guess it wasn't as bad as it could be. I have no idea what happened to my old clothes, though. I only have collared shirts and nice pants and dressy shoes in my room.