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Am I "blowing things out of proportion"?

That's what I'm told time and time again. I'm in my late 30's but pass for mid 20's, 5'9", 120 lbs, always dress and look nice, wear sexy lingerie, love to go out, am playful, affectionate, sexy, loving and have a very high sex drive. Then what's the problem? My husband, who is 10 years older than me, not in that great of shape, completely gray and looks older than he is (people ask if he's my dad), has a terrible habit of checking out other (usually much younger) women, even when we are together; even once scooting up to look around me at a woman at the pool during the dinner that I had prepared for him. I have explained to him time and again through conversation and extremely long, detailed letters as to why I think his actions are hurtful, humiliating, degrading and disrespectful. I have explained that I am not blind either; that I notice the hard tight abs and biceps as well though I don't feel the need to "look", let them see me looking and certainly would never disrespect him by letting him catch me looking. He doesn't "get it" and says that he loves me and that I am the most beautiful woman in the world to him and that I'm blowing things out of proportion. I say his actions speak louder than his words and frankly I'm pretty tired of it and feel I deserve better. What do you say?
Are you male or female?
How old are you?
If you have been in a situation such as this, how did it make you feel?
Disrespected, hurt, degraded
It's ok, everyone looks
Hmmm? What? I didn't notice him(her) looking at her(him) because I was busy looking elsewhere myself
What did you do about it? (Feel free to offer suggestions.)
I left him (her)
I play "games" like letting him(her) catch me checking out someone much finer to make him(her)see how it feels
I stayed and just put up with it and told myself outside of this they are a fairly good person
So, do you also think I'm blowing things out of propotion?
Hell no
No, not really
Well, maybe a little bit
Um, yea, I do
Hell yes, you need to get some help
This poll was created on 2006-07-22 00:34:01 by HeartnSoul