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Sadness and Despair

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TAKING THIS POLL. I AM DESPARATE. What should I do?

Almost 10 years ago my wife had an affair with someone I absolutely HATED. The only redeaming part of this is that she did this when I left her. I wanted to come home immediately, but she disallowed me and had an affair with this person for almost four months. She did not tell me about it for 5 years and only then after I backed her into a corner.

Please answer the following questions to help me get through this.

Should a person forgive their spouse and trust them again once they discover they were unfaithful if the circumstances indicated they were truly confused?
Yes
No
Could you ever believe that your spouse had an affair with someone for four months and did not enjoy the sex, but only took part in it because they were hurting?
Yes
No
Could you ever believe that your typically orgasmic spouse had sex a dozen or more times with someone else and did not orgasm?
Yes
No
If you are a woman, have you ever had sex with someone multiple times while you were hurting from another relationship and not enjoy ANY of the sex, but continue on with it because you enjoyed the feeling of being desired?
Yes
No
If you are a man, would you go back to get more sex from a woman who was clearly not enjoying it?
Yes
No
Do you believe a person could play an active role in an adulterous affair and not be enjoying themself?
Yes
No
I am a ???
Man
Woman
This poll was created on 2005-10-31 16:52:51 by go_away_willya