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i'm in 7th grade now. i remember last year when i started middle school. my coach didn't force us to shower, but he kept saying we should and there's nothing to be scared of. some boys rinsed off in their underwear at first. i showered with a bunch of guys naked at scout camp all the time and it was stupid to be in wet underwear all day so after about the third day i showered naked and was about the only one who did. it was a little scary at first. the other boys were staring at me and laughing at me and saying i was gay. my coach was cool, he yelled at them and told me not to worry about it and kept them away from the showers unless they were going in too. some more boys started to shower naked with me after that though and we got used to it. this year i'm on the basketball team and there's 5 of us that shower together naked after every practice and games. we're all best freinds and we all know what we look like so it's no big deal. my p.e. coach is my basketball coach now. he's a great guy, all the boys like him. sometimes others will look at us in the shower and laugh when he's not in there but we smell good and they stink so the girls like us better cause we shower. they think it's gay for the boys to be afraid to shower and it's cool that we're not afraid too! so we're the smart ones! one thing though, the girls said they have stalls and curtains in their shower room. us boys just have one big room and there's like 4 big poles in the room with 5 showers on them so we're all naked in this one room and everyone in the locker room can watch you, there's no walls or curtains or anything, so that's why we were scared at first. the girls didn't beleive us when we tell them that but that's how it is to shower in the boys locker room.

In my class, no one showers. With the exception of me. I shower naked. In the locker room, everybody has something on except for me. People tease me.

In my school there are paddling. And I was called the teachers pet until one day i was spanked by the teacher.

So one day in my PE class, and the teacher asked me a question. I could not answer and and he told me to go to him and he wrote a number on my hand. THe number was 3 so I knew I was going to be spanked for the first time and will get three smacks. So then after we took a shower, a few of us went up to the teachers office. We needed to go outside into the hall and the other people were nude. I wore my PE shorts and my t shirt and went to the office. THen we all lined up and recieved our paddling. I was the only one nude. I was the first person. The teacher told me to take off my t-shirt and my shorts and my underwear. SO I followed his instructions and stood there nude like everyone else. I bent over a stool and the teacher started spanking me. I was spanked 8 times and I thought I was only going to be paddled 3 times. I asked him why and he told me to line up again. So I did and I was paddled again. This time it was 10 times. I was asked why and I couldn't answer. They told me why and gave me an additional 3 times. They then told me to go back to the locker room nude. So I went to the hallway nude and entered the locker room. I got dressed and went.

RummyG- I don't mean to speak for Bhavna here, but her sexual activities are none of your business. You also mention it as if premarital sex and getting an education are mutually exclusive. Many college-age people are actually able to handle a serious relationship and do well in school, believe it or not!

I think the poll is biased, but I can't really think of a way to change the questions without losing the whole point. I do see issues of self-hatred like this in the ABCD community, and I'm glad someone had the guts to spell it out and ask the tough questions. Let's see what the results have to say.

========== In Reply To ========== Bhavna, how old are you? Have you engaged in penile-vaginal intercourse while persuing your undergrad? If so, does your father know his daughter has engaged in such things while 'studying' at school? How many sexual partners have you had?

RummyG

You say that using the bible to prove that the bible is right is "foolish", yet in a diffrenet poll you used scientific evidence to prove that evolution was right. Is that not the same thing? I could be wrong though, after all I am dealing with a "theologian".

It does not make her racist or immature if she does not like black men. That is her personal preference. Believe me she is not missing anything that she cannot get from any other man. Black men need to get some self-esteem and take pride in their own culture instead of being so insecure and desperate for white women's approval and the white man's envy. You just come off as an insecure self-hating fool with your desperate talk of "Oh please white woman validate me as a man". The white people on this board seem to pity all of the self-hating, insecure black men on this site.

========== In Reply To ========== You have the diease of America, racism.

You don't know what it is that you have experienced and because of your shallow thinking you probably never will. There are too many variables involved in why you you seem to find black men speaking to you. It could be your mode of dress, your $%!@ in your pants, maybe you are more attractive that you realize. It could be the men from the neighborhood that you are in and just a certain social grouping that you are encountering. Moreover, in response to you indication that you would never date a black man is because of your infection.. You would not allow yourself to get to know a black man and then if you did, you would probably be so embarassed by what your friends,neighbors and white people in general would think that you would not be able to focus on the eprson that ou would be getting to know, if it could get that far. Black men are just as varied in thier persons as any other group and under the conditions in which we have had to stirve have proven that we are as good as they come. My brothers and I continue to deal with the disease of America. Things have improved in many ways, however, the legacy of hundreds of years of slavery and oppresion continue to dog us. This, in the attitudes of the dominate culture, the fact that almost every thing that has been aquired in this country has been at the expense of my fathers ancestors, the Natives of this land and my mothers ancestors, the slaves that built this economy through the cultivation of Rice, tobacco and cotton, with out ever recieving payment. Now consider, all of this toil and strife for lo these many years , there have been few estates for these ancestors to leave thier decendants and therefore less riches in our communities. Our people have been miseducated and plotted against for centuries and we continus to grow despite the efforts to keep us pinned. We are truly great.

Little girl, you have a week understanding of history and people, evidenced by your statement. I forgive your ignorance and embrace you with love, for that is the only thing that will cure Amreica and make us one people. That will make us truly strong. Go study something!

America be true to the ideals that you espouse! Remain a Hypocrite and the world will come to hate you in ways that you are too blind to see!

RS

== In Reply To ========== you won't believe how many black men holler at me from everywhere. i consider myself an attractive woman (5'7, 125, blonde hair, blue eyes, physically fit) but it seems like black men in general have a thing for me. I don't understand why this happens whereas you rarely see a black woman get hit on by white men so openly. and why do the black guys like us white girls so much? I've never dated one, and probably never will, but they seem to want to date me badly. black girls walk by them in the same neighborhood, and only a few of them get hit on and the black guys aren't nearly as enthusiastic about it. i don't get it.