User: suitntied

hello slim-guy,

actually, my office has a business/business casual dress code. I was one of the more casual guys, and rarely wore a tie. When I did, it was generally with an unstarched softer collared shirt.

One of the first changes she made to my attire was talking me into point collars, then starching them. Ties more often, until I wore a tie every day during the work week. Now, of course, I'm formally dressed at all times, cufflinks and collar bar.

sounds like an excellent dress code Adam, keep starching those shirts and collars. You're definitely on the right track.

Hello suitednbooted,

Yes, my shirts are heavily starched at the cleaners and the collars and cuffs are sprayed with more starch at home to ensure proper stiffness - she does this for me. I only have one 3 piece suit with waistcoat thus far, I expect more will be added to my wardrobe in the future. I always wear braces now, no more belts for me. My fiance would certainly agree a waistcoat looks smarter than just shirtsleeves, but at least I have the braces when without my jacket.

I'll think about asking my fiance to always keep her collar buttoned up. Perhaps women should be allowed a more relaxed look. I hadn't considered that. Women can wear open collars to work, while I have to wear a tie, after all.

She sure does prefer me in a formal tight collar and tie, with a suit, cuff links, collar bar, and suspenders all day.

Sounds like you keep to an excellent dress code, suitednbooted. Yes, she greatly prefers my collars and ties to be of that level of tightness, and will snug my tie every morning (and throughout the evening after work) to ensure I remain at a very high degree of formality. I agree it would be a shame to disappoint her at this point, she's got me almost where she wants me, dress code wise. It's good to hear your wife appreciates your high standard of formal dress, and enjoys your proper appearance even during the hot months - something I am just now for the first time doing.

I'm not sure what else she might have in mind, but I'm sure she would be open to suggestions to increase the formality and discipline of my dress code. Any ideas?

Rob, it is true she wears her collar open sometimes, not just now but throughout the year. I agree my new dress code is quite severe, but she really wants me like this and I've agreed to committ to it. Perhaps I'll suggest she buttons her collars at all times so she can see what it feels like. She'd likely do it, whenever I ask her to wear something for me, like a silk tie neck blouse, she does. Then perhaps we'll see.

It can be difficult to overcome self-consciousness regarding going formal. It is still hard for me at times, especially on casual friday at work and on saturday afternoon if we go out. But, I've committed to this and am trying my best to stick with it.

Owie,

Thanks for the advice and your own story about your dress code situation. I agree with you on the comfort issue. My fiance has an end point with my dresscode and I'm almost there - I think she still wants my collars a bit higher. I think she's satisfied with their tightness, they are snug to my neck, no space at this point. She likes it when the knot of my tie follows the movements of my head when i turn my neck. Collar bar neatly in place.

I'm trying my best to comply as she's really into transforming me. We're a well-matched couple except for this, and pleasing her is important to me. I hope that it will be second nature soon! She'll be thrilled when that happens.