User: mister tom

You are really in denial and have been brainwashed. Do you really believe that homosexuality is a choice? If you accept that theory there must have been some time in your live when you made the choice to be heterosexual. Can you tell us when that was? It is an accepted FACT, not theory that sexuality is on a continuous scale from totally straight to totally gay and with bisexual somewhere near the middle. Another fact is that if the world is blessed or cursed with offspring from you, it's quite possible you may have a gay son or daughter. All your rage can't change that possibility and hopefully you won't drown them. You need to accept that we are here to stay and that your best friend may be secretly gay. Not all of us fit the stereotypes. We are your barber, your favorite football player, your doctor (does that scare you?), your police officer, your boss, your brother, uncle or nephew. There are gay men and women giving their lives in the military so that you can be free to hate. You're doing a great job of hating but despite your big talk your ignorance is showing.

My guess is that you're straight. At your age the raging hormones can get you hard or semi-hard with very little cause. Simply being naked or seeing others naked is somewhat sexual and that's enough to turn you on physically. As you get older chances are all or most of the same sex feelings will probably diminish or disappear completely. Incidentally it seems to be generally accepted that an erection is contageous--kinda like a yawn. If one person yawns chances are several people around him will feel the need to yawn. Apparently one guy getting an erection is enough to get others hard too. I think part of it is that most of us rarely see others naked and erect and knowing the sensations that guy is feeling can turn us on as well. Just my theory--don't know how accurate it is.

I am gay and don't really understand why a guy would want to dress in women's clothes, especially a straight guy. People are somewhat uncomfortable with homosexuality, but I think they're especially uncomfortable with crossdressing regardless of the person's sexuality. My advice would be not to tell anyone unless you feel compelled to cross dress publicly. You said your mom knows, so you should probably discuss it with her before talking to anyone else. Perhaps she can break the news gently to the rest of the family, but I think you'll need to explain your feelings as well as possible. People often fear and reject what they don't understand. Maybe you could start by wearing Scottish kilts around the house and see what kind of reaction you get. It's not my intention to condemn or criticize you for your preference, just to warn you that you're in for a rough time so you need to be prepared for that. Best of luck, whatever you decide.

I am gay and have done or wanted to do all the things you mentioned. The answer to all of your questions is "maybe", because at 14 your body might be fully developed but your sexuality is not. Lots of guys go through the same sex stage (maybe most of them) and gradually or even suddenly develop more interest in girls. Even as a straight adult you might have some tendencies that seem gay because everyone is different. If you find you have no attraction to the opposite sex over the next 4 or 5 years you are probably gay. Some guys are so close to the borderline between straight and gay they don't discover their identity until they're 30 or older. Best advice is to try to be comfortable with yourself and make sure it's safe sex whether it's with men or women. Best wishes.

what an ignorant statement that there's no in-between. That's like saying everyone is tall or short, genius or moron, obese or skinny, etc. All aspects of being human have variables and sexuality is not an exception. You would have been closer to accurate by saying everyone is either predominantly straight or gay, but even then there are exceptions.