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** ABCD (Indian-Americans) ONLY ** Dating and Self-Image

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Examining dating trends and self-image issues among Indian Americans (born in the US). PLEASE PASS THIS POLL ON TO ALL YOUR ABCD FRIENDS!
This poll is for ABCDs (Indian Americans born in the US) OR Indians who moved to the US BEFORE they were 18 ONLY!
I am an Indian-American (ABCD)
I DO NOT meet these requirements, so I will NOT fill out this survey!
Are you an ABCD male or female?
Male
Female
How old are you?
0-13
14-16
17-19
20-22
23-25
26-30
30-35
35+
ABCD men: do you find white features more attractive than indian features on average?
YES
NO
ABCD women: do you find white features more attractive than indian features on average?
YES
NO
ABCD men: if you answered that you find white features more attractive than indian features, then do you find white women more attractive than indian women on average?
YES
NO
ABCD women: if you answered that you find white features more attractive than indian features, then do you find white men more attractive than indian men on average?
YES
NO
ABCD men: if you answered that you find white features more attractive than indian features, then do you think white men have more attractive features than indian men?
YES
NO
ABCD women: if you answered that you find white features more attractive than indian features, then do you think white women have more attractive features than indian women?
YES
NO
BOTH males/females: If you find white features more attractive than indian features in general, do you find your features less attractive than those of white people?
NO- I do not want to see myself as unattractive
NO- This is an issue of racial self-hatred that a lot of indian people face
YES- I DO think my features are less attractive than those of white people
NO- I realize that this is hypocritical, but I can't think of an explanation!
NO- Indian features are attractive on men but not on women
NO- Indian features are attractive on women but not on men
ABCD men- If you answered that you find white features more attractive than indian features (especially on women), would you find your future daughter (with a white woman) less attractive if she inherited more of your indian features (skin color, nose, etc.) instead of the mother's white features?
YES- indian features are less attractive than white features (esp. on women)
NO- I realize this contradicts my earlier statements
YES- but it's the best I can do genetically (I'm improving my genes)
ABCD women- If you answered that you find white features more attractive than indian features (especially on men), would you find your future son (with a white man) less attractive if he inherited more of your indian features (skin color, nose, etc.) instead of the father's white features?
YES- indian features are less attractive than white features (esp. on men)
NO- I realize this contradicts my earlier statements
YES- but it's the best I can do genetically (I'm improving my genes)
ABCD men- If you think white women are more attractive than indian women, what feature do you find most unattractive about indian women?
Skin color
Build- too large
Build- too small
Height- too tall
Height- too short
Nose- too wide
Nose- too long
I don't think white women are more attractive than Indian women!
Attitude
Eyes- Color
Eyes- Shape / Spacing
Lips- too big
Lips- too small
ABCD women- If you think white men are more attractive than indian men, what feature do you find most unattractive about indian men?
Skin color
Build- too small
Build- too large
Height- too tall
Height- too short
Nose- too wide
Nose- too long
I don't think white men are more attractive than Indian men!
Attitude
Eyes- Color
Eyes- Shape / Spacing
Lips- too big
Lips- too small
ABCD men: what race are you currently dating/married to?
I'm not dating/married to anyone right now
White
Black
Hispanic
Asian (Korean, Japanese, Chinese)
Indian
ABCD women: what race are you currently dating/married to?
I'm not dating/married to anyone right now
White
Black
Hispanic
Asian (Korean, Japanese, Chinese)
Indian
ABCD men: approximately what percentage of women you have dated have been indian vs. white?
0% indian, 100% white
25% indian, 75% white
50% indian, 50% white
75% indian, 25% white
100% indian, 0% white
ABCD women: approximately what percentage of men you have dated have been indian vs. white?
0% indian, 100% white
25% indian, 75% white
50% indian, 50% white
75% indian, 25% white
100% indian, 0% white
ABCD men: is it important to you to marry an indian woman?
YES- it is important to me
YES- only because my parents want me to, but I don't want to!
NO- I don't care if she's Indian
NO- I don't want to marry an Indian woman!
ABCD women: is it important to you to marry an indian man?
YES- it is important to me
YES- only because my parents want me to, but I don't want to!
NO- I don't care if he's Indian
NO- I don't want to marry an Indian man!
ABCD men: how open would you be to dating/marrying an Indian woman born in India?
No problem with it
I'd be hesitant initially, but it depends on the woman
No way!
ABCD women: how open would you be to dating/marrying an Indian man born in India?
No problem with it
I'd be hesitant initially, but it depends on the man
No way!
ABCD men: do you currently or have you ever worn colored contact lenses?
YES
NO
ABCD women: do you currently or have you ever worn colored contact lenses?
YES
NO
ABCD men: do you currently or have you ever dyed/bleached/highlighted your hair?
YES
NO
ABCD women: do you currently or have you ever dyed/bleached/highlighted your hair?
YES
NO
BOTH males/females: If you answered that you have worn colored contacts or dyed your hair, why do you think it is that you NEVER see blue/green/hazel-eyed white people wearing BROWN colored contacts or dying their hair black?
Because we are trying to conform to the white beauty standard
Other (Please don't use this as a copout, explain in "talk about it" section)
I can't think of an explanation!
ABCD men: if the proportion of Indian women you date is small compared to women of other races, why is this?
There are very few indian women where I am
They are not as attractive as white women
I don't like the attitude they have
It would be like dating my sister
Worried about pressure/issues with the woman's parents
I stereotype Indian women (weak, subservient, "village-girl")
The proportion of Indian women I date is NOT small compared to women of other races!
ABCD women: if the proportion of Indian men you date is small compared to men of other races, why is this?
There are very few indian men where I am
They are not as attractive as white men
I don't like the attitude they have
It would be like dating my brother
Worried about pressure/issues with the man's parents
I stereotype Indian men (weak, effeminite, nerdy, or chauvenistic)
The proportion of Indian men I date is NOT small compared to men of other races!
BOTH males/females: If you feel that dating an indian person would be like dating your brother/sister, why do you think you feel this way whereas you NEVER find white people who feel that dating a white person would be like dating their brother/sister?
I grew up around no indians other than my siblings, so I see them that way
I stereotype other indians, but white people don't stereotype white people in this way
Negative portrayal of indians in the media makes me think like this
Other (please don't use this as a copout; explain in "talk about it" section)
I don't feel that dating an Indian person would be like dating my brother/sister!
ABCD men: Why do you think it is that so many ABCD men date white women instead of ABCD indian women?
We view indian women as weak/subservient
We find white women more attractive than indian women
I don't think a lot of ABCD men date white women!
Easier to casually date white women, less family pressure
ABCD women: Why do you think it is that so many ABCD women date white men instead of ABCD indian men?
We view indian men as domineering or chauvenistic
We view indian men as weak or nerdy
We find white men more attractive than indian men
I don't think a lot of ABCD women date white men!
Indian men aren't as aggressive in pursuing us as white men
Easier to casually date white men, less family pressure
ABCD women: If you answered that you find indian men domineering, chauvenistic, weak, or nerdy, do you think this only applies to indian men fresh from india, or does it also include indian men born in the USA (ABCDs)?
Indian men from India only
BOTH ABCDs and Indian men from India
I don't feel that way about Indian men!
ABCD women: If you stereotype ABCD Indian men as domineering, chauvenistic, nerdy, or weak, why do you think of ABCD males as so different from yourself? (Considering that ABCD males and ABCD females are generally brought up in similar environments: both are born in the US and must balance Indian and American cultures and values)
I never thought about it that way before!
I feel the need to negatively stereotype anything Indian, including ABCD men
I stereotype them because they don't conform to the white standard of beauty
I stereotype them because they are negatively stereotyped in the American media
I stereotype them because they somehow remind me of my parents' attitudes
I stereotype them to rebel against my parents
I stereotype them because my white friends don't think they're desirable
I stereotype them because they remind me of my own "Indianness"
I stereotype them because that's how white people stereotype them
I think of myself the same way!
I DON'T stereotype ABCD men as chauvenistic, nerdy, weak, etc.
I can't think of an explanation for why I stereotype them but not myself!
ABCD men adopt their Indian parents' chauvenist attitudes, we don't
ABCD men are nerdy/weak/shy because of cultural confusion, matters more for men!
ABCD men are chauvenistic because they adopt a "thugged-out" attitude, we don't
ABCD women: How do you feel about the "china-doll" stereotype of indian women being ultra-feminine and subservient?
I HATE IT- it is racist!
I like it- it works in our favor!
I didn't know it existed
ABCD women: Do you think ABCD Indian men are weak or effeminite compared to white men?
YES- I am applying the same "china-doll" stereotype to them
YES- but I'm not applying the same "china-doll" stereotype to them
NO
BOTH men/women: Do you think you are more likely to stereotype indian men/women based on a few bad experiences compared to white men/women (i.e., a bad experience with an indian person confirms what you already thought about all indians, whereas a bad experience with a white person means they are just one bad apple)?
YES
NO
BOTH men/women: Do you find yourself eager to apply stereotypes when you see large groups or gatherings of Indian people?
YES
NO
BOTH men/women: If you've dated mostly white people, why is this?
I am just more open-minded about dating
Love is colorblind
I admit that I hold stereotypes against indian people
There are no indian people around me
I haven't dated mostly white people
It is easier to date white people more casually, without parental pressure
White people are more attractive than Indian people
If you answered that "love is colorblind" or that you are "just more open-minded", do you avoid other Indians when it comes to dating? do you see other Indians only as friends but not romantic interests?
YES- I realize that avoiding other Indians is NOT colorblind or open-minded
NO- I don't avoid other indians or just think of them as friends
ABCD men: if you date mostly white women, would you eventually like to marry an indian woman?
YES
NO
I don't date mostly white women
ABCD women: if you date mostly white men, would you eventually like to marry an indian man?
YES
NO
I don't date mostly white men
ABCD men: Ideally, would you like to marry an Indian woman (ABCD or otherwise)?
YES
NO
ABCD women: Ideally, would you like to marry an Indian man (ABCD or otherwise)?
YES
NO
ABCD men: if you find Indian women less attractive than white women, is this based on stereotypes (that they are weak, subservient, "village-girls", etc.) or physical features?
Stereotypes
Physical Features
Both
I don't find Indian women less attractive than white women!
ABCD women: if you find Indian men less attractive than white men, is this based on stereotypes (that they are weak, effeminite, nerdy, domineering, chauvenistic, etc.) or physical features?
Stereotypes
Physical Features
Both
I don't find Indian men less attractive than white men!
ABCD men: if you've visited India, did you find a larger percentage of attractive Indian women there compared to the percentage of attractive Indian women in the US?
YES
NO
SAME
I've never visited India!
ABCD women: if you've visited India, did you find a larger percentage of attractive Indian men there compared to the percentage of attractive Indian men in the US?
YES
NO
SAME
I've never visited India!
BOTH men/women: Why do you think it is that many Indian people find White people more attractive, whereas few White people feel that Indians are more attractive?
There are far more white people than Indians in the US, so there are more good looking whites
American media idealizes the white standard of beauty
Indian media idealizes the white standard of beauty
Because white people are just inherently more attractive!
Because many Indians in the US grow up around very few other Indians
I don't think this is the case!
ABCD men: Ideally, would you like to marry a white woman?
YES
NO
ABCD women: Ideally, would you like to marry a white man?
YES
NO
ABCD men: If you would ideally like to marry a white woman instead of an indian one even though you are indian, why is this?
I have been influenced by American beauty standards
I stereotype Indian women (weak, subservient, "village-girl")
I think white women are more physically attractive than Indian women
There are very few Indian women around me
I don't plan on marrying a white woman!
So my children will be more attractive
Because marrying an Indian woman would be like marrying my sister!
ABCD women: if you would ideally like to marry a white man instead of an Indian one even though you are indian, why is this?
I have been influenced by American beauty standards
I stereotype Indian men (weak, effeminite, nerdy, chauvenistic)
I think white men are more physically attractive than Indian men
There are very few Indian men around me
I don't plan on marrying a white man!
So my children will be more attractive
Because marrying an Indian man would be like marrying my brother!
ABCD men: Why do you think it is that most white men want to marry and do marry white women (who share similar culture, religion, and physical features), whereas many indian men don't want to marry indian women (even though they share similar culture, religion, and physical features)? (NOTE: If you answered that you want to marry a white woman, choose the answer that explains why. If not, answer the question as asked)
I don't think a lot of Indian men DON'T want to marry Indian women!
Indian men stereotype Indian women (weak, subservient,
There aren't many Indian women around
The media negatively portrays Indians, which effects the way we think of Indian women
Indian men feel this will help them to assimilate into white American society
Indian men believe this will help them to gain "white privilege"
They are ashamed of being Indian
Some Indian men have self-hatred issues
Some Indian men feel it will make them "more American" or they'll be better accepted by white people
Indian men feel their children will be more attractive with a white woman
Indian men have adopted the white American beauty standard + think Indian features less attractive
ABCD women: Why do you think it is that most white women want to marry and do marry white men (who share similar culture, religion, and physical features), whereas many indian women don't want to marry indian men (even though they share similar culture, religion, and physical features)? (NOTE: If you answered that you want to marry a white man, choose the answer that explains why. If not, answer the question as asked)
I don't think a lot of Indian women DON'T want to marry Indian men!
Indian women stereotype Indian men (weak, effeminite, nerdy, chauvenistic, etc.)
There aren't many Indian men around
The media negatively portrays Indians, which effects the way we think of Indian men
Indian women feel this will help them to assimilate into white American society
Indian women believe this will help them to gain "white privilege"
They are ashamed of being Indian
Some Indian women have self-hatred issues
Some Indian women feel it will make them "more American" or they'll be better accepted by white peop
Indian women feel their children will be more attractive with a white man
Indian women have adopted the white American beauty standard + think Indian features less attractive
ABCD men: Were the issues raised by this poll difficult for you to face?
YES
NO
ABCD women: Were the issues raised by this poll difficult for you to face?
YES
NO
ABCD men: has this poll in any way changed the way you think about your self-image as an ABCD Indian man?
YES
NO
ABCD women: has this poll in any way changed the way you think about your self-image as an ABCD Indian woman?
YES
NO
BOTH men/women: if someone felt that their ETHNIC features (skin/eye color, nose shape, etc.) made them inherently unattractive, and that passing on these ethnic features to their children would make their children unattractive, is this a form of racial self-hatred?
YES
NO
ABCD men: Do you think this poll reveals issues of self-hatred among ABCD indian men?
YES
NO
ABCD women: Do you think this poll reveals issues of self-hatred among ABCD indian women?
YES
NO
ABCD men: When you picture your "ideal woman" in your mind, is she white or Indian?
White
Indian
Neither
ABCD women: When you picture your "ideal man" in your mind, is he white or Indian?
White
Indian
Neither
This poll was created on 2002-03-24 18:16:46 by meme0114