Mister Poll: Wedding & Marital traditions

I am a man who recently got married and I had many issues with everything about the wedding being all about the bride. I believe that 2 people are getting married and it should be a celabration for both the groom and the bride equally. I would like to know how other men and women feel about this issue. Please take this poll seriously. Thank you

Lets start with the engagement. Since some gender roles are changing and women want equality should it always be the man proposing to the woman and giving her a ring?

Yes, the man should propose to the woman and give her a ring

No, the woman should propose to the man and give him a ring

No, it should be up to the couple to decide for themselves

No/Maybe, either could ask the other to marry them and both the man and woman get engagement rings

This situation happened to me this past summer and I am courious to see if you think this was fair or not. There were many times when my mother-in-law invited only the girls to go out for the day to get things for the wedding while I had to stay home with my wife's and my children and work around the house. I am very much a part of our childrens lives and I was home with them all summer while my wife worked (I am a teacher). So my first question is: was it fair that on her days off my mother-in-law would take my wife and other women out for a day of fun while I stayed home with the kids?

Yes, I believe that planning a wedding is something done by the bride and other women only.

No, you (the groom) should have been invited to go along and either bring the kids along too or have gotten a sitter.

No, the mother-in-law should have backed off and watched the kids while the bride and groom went out and got things for the wedding that they wanted.

Another situation I did not like was concerning getting my 9 year old daughter's dress for the wedding. I have been the only parent in my daughter's life for 5 years. So it has just been her and me for many years yet I was not asked nor allowed when I asked to go along because I wanted to be a part of her getting her dress for my wedding. Do you agree or disagree?

I agree, men should not be a part of getting or choosing the brides maid's and other girl's dresses.

I disagree, you (the groom) should have been able to go to be a part of getting your daughter's dress, although men should not usually be a part of getting or choosing the brides maid's and other girl's dresses.

I disagree, the groom should be able to be a part of everything about the wedding.

Ok now for some generic questions. Do you believe a bridal/wedding shower should be only for the bride or should it be a couples shower, if the couple wants it that way?

A bridal shower should only be for the bride.

It should be called a wedding shower and it should be held in honor of both the bride and groom and couples should be invited.

If the shower is for the bride only should the groom be able to have a bachelor party of his own?

No, guys cant be trusted on their own.

Yes, but under some kind of supervision.

Yes, if she is having a party of her own he should be able to have one too.

I have been told that except for the groom getting the rings the groom is not important. Do you agree with this statement?

Yes

Do you feel that the wedding ceremony should be all about the bride?

Yes, it is always all about her.

Somewhat, she should be the focus of attention but the groom is also important.

No, a wedding is a ceremony celebrating the union of the man and woman and both should share the spotlight.

Are there any other questions that you feel are relevent to this survey and should be added please post it below and I will add it to this poll. Thank you.

Are you Male or Female?

Male

Female

Since this poll is about fairness and equality in preparation and planning for and the wedding ceremony itself, lets add something from the other side. How do you feel about the traditional way of thinking that the bride's parents or family pay for the reception?

I am a traditionalist and believe that the bride's parents or family should pay for the reception.

I believe that the bride's parents or family should offer to pay for it but not be "expected" to pay for it.

I believe that the parents on both sides should work together and equally pay for the rehearsal dinner as well as the reception.

I believe that since this is the bride's and groom's "party" that they should pay for the reception themselves and only recieve help if either set of parents "wish" to contribute.

This poll was created on 2007-12-12 20:15:42 by Jeppy