Wifes job -- harassment & fringe benefits
She told me that one boy forced her to have sex with him, claiming he had a knife. From her describing what went on, he never showed it. I have met the boy and he doesnt seem like too bad of a guy. Should she:
| 18% (4) | Report it, after the fact? | |
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| 0% (0) | Keep quiet and not risk bringing up old history? | |
| 18% (4) | Not report it; it really wasnt rape since she was not actually threatened? | |
| 63% (14) | Not report it since she admitted that she sort of had fun with him? |
22 voters have answered this question.
Since she sees the boy every day, she has admitted to me she is thinking about a different job. She really, really likes her job. Should I:
| 59% (13) | Tell her not to quit. Why should she quit what she likes? Eventually the boy will be gone. | |
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| 36% (8) | Support whatever decision she makes, it is her life. | |
| 4% (1) | Tell her to quit, why should she have to put up with that? |
22 voters have answered this question.
I spoke with her boss (a woman) socially and learned the boy was from a home where his father had sex with his sister and encouraged him to do the same. By not reporting, we:
| 27% (6) | Are encouraging the boy to repeat what he has learned. | |
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| 9% (2) | Are avoiding a media feeding frenzy which would do him little good. | |
| 9% (2) | Are avoiding a media feeding frenzy which would do us little good. | |
| 13% (3) | Are keeping him from being punished for something he has little control over. | |
| 40% (9) | Are simply admitting a teen used to having sex finds it tough to suddenly be without sex. |
22 voters have answered this question.
Now, anytime she is alone with him, he gropes and fondles her. He also informs her that he wants to have sex with her again. Should I:
| 54% (12) | Encourage my wife to give into his demands. | |
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| 4% (1) | Tell my wife to grope him right back. | |
| 13% (3) | Tell my wife to put up with it so that she can keep the job she likes. | |
| 13% (3) | Urge my wife to try and teach him better manners ask nicely and maybe the answer is yes, otherwise no! | |
| 13% (3) | Tell my wife to give it up and get a different job. Harassment is harassment. |
22 voters have answered this question.
The facility has a policy that allows staffers to take residents out for short periods of time, for example to restaurants or museums, to improve social behavior. Should I have my wife arrange to take the boy out for supper?
| 18% (4) | Yes. | |
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| 18% (4) | No way. | |
| 63% (14) | Yes, some fast food and find a deserted parking lot or other place to park. |
22 voters have answered this question.
The facility also allows for furloughs for overnight or over-weekend stays by residents at staffers homes. (Her boss frequently does this.) Should I urge my wife to arrange for him to visit us?
| 40% (9) | Yes | |
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| 40% (9) | Yes, but make myself scarce while he is there. | |
| 18% (4) | No. |
22 voters have answered this question.
Since the facility houses both boys and girls, should I encourage my wife to sign out one of the girls?
| 54% (12) | Sure, why not? What is fair for the goose is fair for the gander. | |
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| 22% (5) | No, that is just plain wrong. | |
| 22% (5) | Dont indulge in wishful thinking. |
22 voters have answered this question.
My wife has admitted to turning a blind eye to some of the boys and girls being alone together in a private room. Is this wrong?
| 18% (4) | Yes | |
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| 27% (6) | No | |
| 54% (12) | It makes no difference, if they want it badly enough; theyll find ways to do it. |
22 voters have answered this question.
Final question, there is another position open that pays a little more, but would require her to work later hours and sometimes be alone in the facility after hours. Should she ask for that position?
| 13% (3) | Yes | |
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| 63% (14) | Hell yes, what an opportunity! She should go for it! | |
| 22% (5) | No way. |
22 voters have answered this question.
Now a couple of questions about the poll taker; are you:
| 59% (13) | A male | |
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| 40% (9) | A female |
22 voters have answered this question.
Your age group:
| 4% (1) | Under 18. | |
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| 28% (6) | Between 19 and 29 | |
| 38% (8) | Between 30 and 39 | |
| 28% (6) | 40+ |
21 voters have answered this question.
