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Wife’s job -- harassment & fringe benefits

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My wife used to be a teacher. She left under a cloud of suspicion. A couple of boys claimed they had sex with her. She denied it, saying they made it up to try and blackmail her into having sex with them. (All this before I met her.) There was enough doubt she was not prosecuted and her resignation was cleanly accepted. She now works at a facility for teens from troubled families. Recently, after having some drinks, she told me that she had some “incidents” at work.
She told me that one boy “forced” her to have sex with him, claiming he had a knife. From her describing what went on, he never showed it. I have met the boy and he doesn’t seem like too bad of a guy. Should she:
Report it, after the fact?
Keep quiet and not risk bringing up old history?
Not report it; it really wasn’t rape since she was not actually threatened?
Not report it since she admitted that she sort of had fun with him?
Since she sees the boy every day, she has admitted to me she is thinking about a different job. She really, really likes her job. Should I:
Tell her not to quit. Why should she quit what she likes? Eventually the boy will be gone.
Support whatever decision she makes, it is her life.
Tell her to quit, why should she have to put up with that?
I spoke with her boss (a woman) socially and learned the boy was from a home where his father had sex with his sister and encouraged him to do the same. By not reporting, we:
Are encouraging the boy to repeat what he has learned.
Are avoiding a media “feeding frenzy” which would do him little good.
Are avoiding a media “feeding frenzy” which would do us little good.
Are keeping him from being punished for something he has little control over.
Are simply admitting a teen used to having sex finds it tough to suddenly be without sex.
Now, anytime she is alone with him, he gropes and fondles her. He also informs her that he wants to have sex with her again. Should I:
Encourage my wife to give into his demands.
Tell my wife to grope him right back.
Tell my wife to put up with it so that she can keep the job she likes.
Urge my wife to try and teach him better manners –ask nicely and maybe the answer is yes, otherwise no!
Tell my wife to give it up and get a different job. Harassment is harassment.
The facility has a policy that allows staffers to take residents out for short periods of time, for example to restaurants or museums, to improve social behavior. Should I have my wife arrange to take the boy out for supper?
Yes.
No way.
Yes, some fast food and find a deserted parking lot or other place to park.
The facility also allows for “furloughs” for overnight or over-weekend stays by residents at staffers’ homes. (Her boss frequently does this.) Should I urge my wife to arrange for him to visit us?
Yes
Yes, but make myself scarce while he is there.
No.
Since the facility houses both boys and girls, should I encourage my wife to “sign out” one of the girls?
Sure, why not? What is fair for the goose is fair for the gander.
No, that is just plain wrong.
Don’t indulge in wishful thinking.
My wife has admitted to turning a blind eye to some of the boys and girls being alone together in a private room. Is this wrong?
Yes
No
It makes no difference, if they want it badly enough; they’ll find ways to do it.
Final question, there is another position open that pays a little more, but would require her to work later hours and sometimes be alone in the facility after hours. Should she ask for that position?
Yes
Hell yes, what an opportunity! She should go for it!
No way.
Now a couple of questions about the poll taker; are you:
A male
A female
Your age group:
Under 18.
Between 19 and 29
Between 30 and 39
40+
This poll was created on 2007-08-16 04:27:59 by Scotsman52