Cheating -- Do you think I am cheating?
Have you had two or more lovers during the same period of time (I'm not talking about threesomes, etc.)
| 61% (81) | Yes | |
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| 38% (50) | No |
131 voters have answered this question.
Did you try to tell both of them or only one of them about the other?
| 32% (29) | I tried to tell both. | |
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| 67% (59) | Only one; the other was my secret. |
88 voters have answered this question.
Why did you tell either of them about the other?
| 17% (31) | It was the right thing to do. | |
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| 7% (13) | It was convenient. | |
| 8% (15) | Because I felt guilty. | |
| 14% (25) | Because they had a right to know. | |
| 3% (7) | To keep the one or ones I told at a distance. | |
| 5% (9) | To bring the ones I told closer to me. | |
| 3% (6) | To make them jealous. | |
| 5% (10) | To manipulate them. | |
| 3% (6) | To make them choose what to do. | |
| 24% (44) | To clarify our relationship. | |
| 6% (11) | To give them the opportunity of dropping me. |
177 voters have answered this question.
Did one or both of them "take it hard" or get jealous?
| 43% (37) | Yes | |
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| 56% (49) | No |
86 voters have answered this question.
If you did not inform the others, why didn't you?
| 4% (4) | I was afraid of gossip. | |
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| 9% (8) | I wanted to manipulate them. | |
| 18% (16) | I was afraid they'd drop me. | |
| 30% (26) | I was afraid of hurtiing one or both of them. | |
| 1% (1) | I wanted to hurt one or both of them. | |
| 15% (13) | I was afraid of angry arguments and jealousy. | |
| 5% (5) | I was afraid they'd talk and get me into trouble. | |
| 15% (13) | I like keeping secrets. |
86 voters have answered this question.
If you didn't tell them, did they find out anyway?
| 36% (22) | Yes | |
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| 63% (38) | No |
60 voters have answered this question.
When you told one or both, what did they do?
| 23% (17) | They didn't mind. | |
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| 17% (13) | They got indignant and angry. (Even if only one of them...) | |
| 2% (2) | They moralized. | |
| 6% (5) | They tried to get back at me. | |
| 9% (7) | They dropped me. | |
| 20% (15) | I think it excited them. | |
| 19% (14) | It helped the relationship(s). |
73 voters have answered this question.
Did you consider yourself "cheating" for not telling one or all of them?
| 42% (30) | Yes, but I did it anyway. | |
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| 1% (1) | No, because I was being kind. | |
| 2% (2) | Yes, and it taught me a lesson. | |
| 14% (10) | Yes, and I would never do that again. | |
| 8% (6) | No, because I had to do it that way. | |
| 12% (9) | No, I was not committed to any of them. | |
| 2% (2) | No, I wasn't married and I could deceive them if I chose to. | |
| 9% (7) | Yes, which is why I told them. I wanted two or more lovers. | |
| 5% (4) | No, I enjoyed it but it was too much trouble. |
71 voters have answered this question.
Has anyone done this to you?
| 63% (65) | Yes | |
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| 36% (37) | No |
102 voters have answered this question.
Fundamentally, how did you react
| 12% (10) | Jealousy. | |
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| 20% (16) | Anger. | |
| 25% (20) | Disappointment. | |
| 35% (28) | Indifference. | |
| 7% (6) | Pleasure--I wanted to get rid of one or more of them. |
80 voters have answered this question.
Will you please write a message telling me about what you did or what someone else did to you and give details so that I may learn from your experience?
| 19% (17) | Yes. | |
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| 80% (70) | No. |
87 voters have answered this question.
