Teacher-Student Relationships: a poll for the teachers.
You were a:
| 57% (49) | Male teacher involved with a female student. | |
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| 5% (5) | Male teacher involved with a male student. | |
| 21% (18) | Female teacher involved with a male student. | |
| 15% (13) | Female teacher involved with a female student. |
85 voters have answered this question.
How old were you at the time of the relationship?
| 24% (20) | 20-25 | |
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| 25% (21) | 25-30 | |
| 43% (36) | 30-40 | |
| 3% (3) | 40-50 | |
| 3% (3) | 50+ |
83 voters have answered this question.
How old was the student at the beginning of the relationship?
| 8% (7) | 12 | |
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| 2% (2) | 13 | |
| 7% (6) | 14 | |
| 16% (14) | 15 | |
| 16% (14) | 16 | |
| 23% (20) | 17 | |
| 14% (12) | 18 | |
| 10% (9) | 19 |
84 voters have answered this question.
The relationship was:
| 45% (38) | Romantic but non-sexual | |
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| 54% (46) | Sexual |
84 voters have answered this question.
How long did it last?
| 17% (14) | 1-3 months | |
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| 11% (9) | 3-6 months | |
| 30% (25) | 6 months to 1 year | |
| 16% (13) | 2 years | |
| 1% (1) | 3 years | |
| 3% (3) | 4 years | |
| 19% (16) | More than 4 years |
81 voters have answered this question.
Were you involved with anyone else at the time of your relationship with the student?
| 32% (27) | Yes, I was married. | |
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| 7% (6) | Yes, I was in a serious relationship. | |
| 19% (16) | No, but I was casually dating someone else. | |
| 40% (34) | No, I was not involved with anyone else. |
83 voters have answered this question.
Did you get caught?
| 1% (1) | Yes, but somehow I lost my job. | |
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| 4% (4) | Yes, but I lost my job. | |
| 4% (4) | Yes, charges were brought up against me. | |
| 89% (73) | No, I was not. |
82 voters have answered this question.
If yes, how were you caught?
| 77% (46) | I was not caught. | |
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| 6% (4) | Another teacher found us out. | |
| 5% (3) | Another student found us out. | |
| 0% (0) | The parents of the student found out. | |
| 3% (2) | My significant other found out. | |
| 3% (2) | The student reported me. | |
| 3% (2) | I don't know. |
59 voters have answered this question.
Were you satisfied with the relationship?
| 74% (61) | Yes, I have no regrets. | |
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| 17% (14) | Yes, but I regret it now. | |
| 3% (3) | No, I regret everything. | |
| 4% (4) | No, but I'd do it again given the chance. |
82 voters have answered this question.
How did the relationship begin? Please elaborate on the messageboard.
| 5% (5) | I confessed my feelings. | |
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| 13% (11) | The student confessed his/her feelings. | |
| 16% (14) | It just happened out of nowhere. | |
| 36% (31) | We had been feeling tension between us for some time. | |
| 15% (13) | We were friends first. | |
| 3% (3) | I offered to raise his/her grade in exchange for sexual favors. | |
| 8% (7) | He/she offered sexual favors in exchange for a higher grade. |
84 voters have answered this question.
Was the relationship based on feelings of love?
| 42% (35) | Yes, we were both in love. | |
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| 7% (6) | Yes, we thought we were in love at the time. | |
| 7% (6) | Yes, he/she was in love with me. | |
| 8% (7) | Yes, I was in love with him/her. | |
| 19% (16) | No, it was based mostly on attraction. | |
| 14% (12) | No, it was strictly sexual. | |
| 1% (1) | No, it was sexual and "quid pro quo". |
83 voters have answered this question.
Did the relationship continue after the student graduated?
| 37% (31) | Yes, we are still in a serious relationship. | |
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| 15% (13) | Yes, we still have casual sex. | |
| 34% (28) | No, it ended before he/she graduated. | |
| 12% (10) | No, it stopped when he/she graduated. |
82 voters have answered this question.
Have you had multiple relationships with multiple students?
| 16% (14) | Yes, I had some relationships before/after the one in question. | |
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| 3% (3) | Yes, I had them at the same time as the one in question. | |
| 79% (66) | No, I did not. |
83 voters have answered this question.
Was the student happy in the relationship?
| 77% (65) | Yes. | |
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| 3% (3) | Yes, but he/she regretted it later. | |
| 13% (11) | Yes, but we had some very rough spots. | |
| 3% (3) | No, it was an unhealthy relationship. | |
| 1% (1) | No, it wasn't entirely consensual. | |
| 1% (1) | No. |
84 voters have answered this question.
How common do you think these relationships are?
| 13% (11) | Very common. | |
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| 47% (40) | A lot more common than you'd think. | |
| 22% (19) | About as common as it seems. | |
| 10% (9) | A lot less common than you'd think. | |
| 5% (5) | Very uncommon. |
84 voters have answered this question.
Do you personally know any other teachers that have been involved in these relationships?
| 12% (10) | Yes, several of my coworkers had been involved at one time. | |
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| 22% (19) | Yes, I knew teachers from other schools that had been involved. | |
| 20% (17) | No, but some of my coworkers admitted being attracted to their students. | |
| 8% (7) | No, but I've talked online to other teachers in these relationships. | |
| 36% (30) | No, I never met anyone. |
83 voters have answered this question.
On a scale of 1-10, 1 being very unnattractive by conventional standards and 10 being extremely attractive, where would you rate your student?
| 0% (0) | 1 | |
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| 2% (2) | 2 | |
| 2% (2) | 3 | |
| 3% (3) | 4 | |
| 3% (3) | 5 | |
| 2% (2) | 6 | |
| 15% (13) | 7 | |
| 27% (23) | 8 | |
| 15% (13) | 9 | |
| 27% (23) | 10 |
84 voters have answered this question.
If your student was less than a seven, would you still have been involved in the relationship?
| 47% (37) | Yes. | |
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| 23% (18) | No. | |
| 29% (23) | Don't know. |
78 voters have answered this question.
