Domineering & sexually/mentally under-developed men?

I find that the most intelligent men usually look less masculine than average and the most intelligent women look less feminine than average. I can get along with either, but I want a more normal girl, for sure. I have been around a lot of professors, grad students, medical students, etc. Physics students and profs, I find, are the worst for this...and I would argue they are some of the smartest.