How Spankings Should Be Administered

I am a father, an adoptive father, and a foster father. I currently have a number of boys living in my home, from 6 to 22. (6,8,9.9.10,11,12,13,14,15,16,17,18,22 - the 15 and 18 year olds actually live with their moms and I have visitation with them). OF the oldest 4, I have only spanked one of them in nearly 2 years, tho he's received it about 3 times in that period. Usually, once a boy hits 16 (as soon as he receives his driver's licence), I rarely spank them. Instead, they loose driving priveleges. Only if they get in trouble again, while grounded, do they get spanked, and then it's bent over with a school paddle or strapped.

Actually, of the 4 oldest boys, it's not the 16 year old that's been spanked recently. His last one was the week after Christmas, '05. I really do work with the boys and try to avoid spanking them, if they try to behave. It's my personal belief that a child's (at least a boy's) need for spanking peaks at 12, then quickly drops off to nothing, in most cases. I think that's because they are beginning to think of themselves as grown up, and should be beginning to receive more freedom and independence, and they often push that. Once they get it thru their heads and harmones that they still have to follow the rules, they seem to settle down quickly.

I own my own business and am succesful enough that I can usually be home with my kids. That makes my house a mecca for latchkey kids. I don't even know how many kids I have permission to spank these days, but it's more than a few. Part of that's because I'm active in my community. Part of it's because, when the boys make a new friend, I make a point of inviting their parent(s) over so we can meet each other. Even if their parent(s) and I don't have a lot of common interest, at least they know I'm interested in their child and willing to help out with them.

I believe in spanking bare bottom for several resaons. First, a spanking is suppossed to hurt (not do damage, but cause pain), so it seems silly to let the child have protection during the spanking. Next, especially because I sometimes spank my kid's friends and have new foster kids, I think it's wise to spank bare because you can see what you are doing. Once, I had a boy who was particularly shy, so I let him keep a pair of red colored briefs on when I spanked him (he was a friend of my youngest - at that time - brother, so I spanked Ben seperately, since Ben still got it bare). Later, Ben told me that his friend's butt was black and blue. Finally, I think that spankings work because they have two seperate effects: they are painful and embarrassing. For a little kid, the pain and fear is pretty much all of the spanking. By the time a kid's in his teens, he doesn't like the pain, but is humiliated that he's being 'treated like a kid'. Obviously, taking the kids shorts down increases it's effectiveness here, also.

Finally, I prefer otk, because it offers more control. Since Marcus is now 6'1" (nearly 3" taller than me), we usually put him on the bed. I also like the physical contact with otk, especially because it lets me immediattely pull the boy to sitting in my lap, so I can hug him as soon as the spankings over, before he goes to the corner. Likewise, I prefer some type of paddle (or brush), both because it seems to work best in the position in which I prefer to spank and because it's much easier to control where they land than with a belt. That doesn't mean I haven't used other instruments, that's just my preference. I gave my first real spanking when baby-sitting my little bros when I was 12, and over 30 years now, I've tried a lot of different instruments and positions.

I think that's all the questions. If I missed anything, or if someone wants more details, let me know.

Jayce

Jayce you are a disgusting pervert who exercises your own sexual desires on your children. although behaviour should be punished and you have the right to do so on your own children you have NO RIGHT to touch foster or step children, these are non of your concern and it should be down to the mother in the case of the step children to deal with it accordingly, i assure you that i would have you reported to the authorities if i knew who you were, i was never spanked during my childhood yet had i been i would have been on to the police immediatly and i dont think they would have the balls 2 have tried it anyway. i am now the owner of a transport/minibus firm running 5 depos around the countrywith 74 vehicles, am happily married and live comfortably, i didnt need spanking you need the belt wrapping around your neck.