At my Dad's house

Tell your dad you can not stay with his new wife and kids, and your visits will stop.

It is truly sad your dad has put you in this no-win situation. He will not leave his present wife for you. He has already left you for her.

Tell him also he has made the decission to make them his family, instead of you.

If your dad refuses to let you return home, tell him you will phone the police the first chance you get, because you will have been kidnapped.

I was in a similar situation when I was young and loved my dad too much to terminate the visits. Until...

Early one morning (2 o'clock A M), the summer after I turned 12 years old, I became very violent. I destroyed my step-mothers kitchen, good china, crystal, and silverware. (I did about $20, 000 damage to the house using the electric skillet like a sledge hammer. When I was done, I threw what was left of the electric skillet through the TV screen. BOOM.) Then, I put my step-mother in the hospital with my fists. I could have killed her. Only the pleading from my step-sister stopped me. I did kill the lap dog. He was treated, and fed, better than I was. I snapped the dog's neck with one twist, and threw his dead carcass through the sliding glass patio door. The door was shut.

When my dad returned home, things changed for us very permanently. Even though Dad was a lot taller than me, heavier, and stronger, Dad was afraid of me, and still is. Dad knew, then, I could have killed him, too. Dad would never have been able to sleep, if I was in the house.

Don't do that. Take a calm, peaceful attitude, but get out, immediately.

Your own mental well being, and the remainder of your life is at stake, now.

Show your dad this poll, and my post.

P. S. I literally kicked the poop out of my step-mother. She deserved a lot more.

Wow, you really had it tough

Hey SMELLY TWO MAN,

I intended to write this follow up, earlier. Then my computer crashed, big time.

I hope this is in time to do some good.

Maybe, your father's present wife intended to help you loose some weight.

Your father's present wife is obviously childish, and has proven she has no consideration for your emotional well being. There is no way of knowing what she may encourage her children to do next. Those brats might be told to kick your testicles, or gouge your eyes, just to see what sort of funny face you might make.

Your description of your father's friend, Bruce, reads as though Bruce might be a homosexual pedophile. Make sure to avoid being in the same room, alone, with Bruce. He might become violent.

Your choice of screen name, and your description of your family situation, makes me think you might have a problem with low self esteem. It's too bad school is out, now. A teacher might be able to help you get counseling. If you attend church, which I doubt since you wrote about experiences Sunday, a minister may also have resources for providing help for you. A serious conversation with your mother is a real good idea. She might not be aware of all of the problems you are facing. Your mom may not believe she is financially able to afford help. There are services that work on "sliding scale", or even "pro bono" (That means "for the good of all", not just "free".) for children. Have your mom check the phone book to see if your city, or town, has a "help line".

This is not the venue to discuss the events which led to my violent episode. It was the only way I had to say "I'm leaving, now, and I'm not coming back". We must hope you have a better choice.

You must believe you are not responsible for the decisions your father has made, nor are you responsible for what ever state your mother might be in. Try to think positively and look for ways to improve your life.

Good luck, and use this message area to let us know how this goes for you.

Mad John

P. S. If you want details about my history, write so in reply. I should warn you, you might not like what I write.