Uniform, swimwear, respect and discipline

Hi I'm Bridget and I thought I should give my perspective on kneeling to my elders. I was checking out mrpoll and respect. Given I come from a strong (strict) Catholic family, I have to kneel each day at Church. After reading some of the polls, it made sence for me as a child to respect my elders (particulary my parents) in this way. I showed my aunt who I was staying with the polls and feedback, and asked her if I could show my respect for her and kneel at her side while she read more polls. She said yes that it would be a good idea. After 10 minutes my sister walked past and said what was going on. I remained silent with my eyes forward, and my aunt said she should follow my lead, she said no and why was I doing it, I was told to remain silent. After 40 minutes I was told to go back to study, and my sister asked why did I do it. I said as a sign of respect. She had to write lines that night and joined me the next day kneeling in silence. When my parents found out, they were elated and we both now have to do it for 15 minutes after dinner each night. After the first time your knees feel a bit sore (we have floorboards) but you get used to it. My Mother inspected us the first night we knelt before them and made sure our knees were together and our ankles were together (haven't told her but it sems to double the pain) our arms by our sides and head up high with eyes forward. My little sister is still a bit reluctant, but is getting use to it. It's good to hear there are others out there doing this and I encourage other to do it. Trust me, your parents will be happy to have you kneel before them as a sign of respect. If you are thinking of doing it and can't build up the courage, show your parents these polls, inform them many children have to or choose to do it, and tell them you would LIKE to do it, wait until they are sitting down at the end of the night, ensure you have your full school uniform on, stand to attention before them and await their instruction. Without doubt, they will say "Well", then kneel down, let them look at you (they will be proud), but keep your own eyes forward. Don't get up until told (let them decide) mine are happy with 15 minutes.

Hi Bridget. You say you knelt to your aunt. Do you have to kneel to other family members. When my Grandparents stay, I have to kneel to them as well. Only change is I have to be closer (so they can see me better) and they keep on saying things like; "If all children behaved like you, the world would be a better place", and "Head up straight and shoulders back young man". At least my Parents are quiet during my kneeling time.

Only family members. My aunt (of course as I started that way) and uncle, but I have'nt seen my grandparents recently, but it will be expected as my Mother told them. Kneeling time is in complete silence, but my aunt dose say, "Good girls", when we kneel.

Hi Bridget, Lisa here. I have been reading your message section and have been thinking about your chosen lifestyle for a few weeks now, and noticed there are quite a number of children showing respect to elders by kneeling to them. I am an only child in a small town of 500. Mum and Dad are fairly strict, but let me do pretty much what I like. During dinner, Mum asked me why I was still wearing my uniform, I just said because I prefer wearing it then casual clothes, she said "well I won't waste money on buying casual clothes", I said "ok". As you suggested, I showed them these polls and messages last week, and they were surprised to say the least. It was 8pm after dinner and Mum said "that explains still being in your uniform". They sat down next to each other (they usually sit on separate chairs) sending the message to me, they were ready for it, I walked out (very nervous, thinking what was I getting into, but excited) stood up straight (slightly out of the way of the tv), must have been there for a minute, and mum said, "Well Lisa", and I dropped to my knees. It was amasing, they changed straight away. The said they were too soft on me it the past and more respect was to be shown, by calling them Sir and Ma'am, kneeling (we have carpet) for 20 minutes each night, and only wearing my school uniform, in my case summer gingham dress pink, white tights and black mary janes, winter, same tights and shoes, light blue shirt, dark blue tie with light blue stripes, and dark blue tunic. We don't have the numbers for a ballet class, but mum is getting me ballet clothes online and a dvd and will teach me daily in our living room (floor boards), using a bench for a barre. We are selling all my casual clothes on ebay. It's a bit hard I've got to say seeing my nice clothes and lovely shoes get packaged up and sent to some other lucky girl, but mum said she spent a lot of money on them and was going to get some money back. Iv'e got to say, getting into your school uniform on that first Saturday and going out grocery shopping with mum is strange, particulary in a small town where everyone knows everyone, but once you've done it people and you come to get used to it and expect it. The hair thing was the one thing I hoped would be flexible on, but mum said she liked the idea and discipline of a bun. I used to have my hair in ponytails, plaits, headband ect, but now bun all the time. Mum does it for me each morning and puts a bun ring on first to make it bigger followed by a net

Well done Lisa. Once you get past that first step, all seems to fall into place. I love the sound of your uniform mine, by comparison, is a bit drab. It's a big step going into full school uniform all the time, and even harder for you, having to sell your collection of casual clothes realising you won't get any more. Are you getting used to kneeling? How's the ballet going? You didn't mention your age. And I lke the idea of a bun ring or 'sock bun', I'm going to get one. Having a bun is quite disciplined, but you get used to it. Well done.